How to Self-Regulate Your Teenage Mind
In his new book, Self-Realization: The Psychology of How We Become What We Are, psychologist Jonathan Cahn outlines how teens can harness the power of their own mind, creating new, unique identities and becoming the “world’s most self-actualized people.”
The book’s subtitle: The secret to self-realization.
“You don’t need a big brain to be self-aware,” Cahn writes.
“But if you’re an introvert or an introverted person, you don’t have to be.
You don’t even need to have a big mind.”
It’s a message that resonates with the millions of teens around the world who struggle with anxiety, depression, and other issues, but have few or no opportunities to experience self-awareness.
Self-realized individuals can be at the core of many of today’s most powerful social movements.
For instance, one recent study found that self-identified self-harm prevention was a key factor in helping nearly 2 million young people avoid or at least slow the decline in their mental health and self-esteem, as well as reduce the risk of suicide.
In his book, Cahn cites the power that social media has had in connecting teens with support groups and mentors, which is what spurred his own transformation.
“I found the self-help books were not the place to begin,” he says.
“There’s a need for books that address the underlying mental health issues that are so common to young people.
There’s a lot of information out there that’s good but not for everybody.
But I felt it was important to provide a more comprehensive approach that addressed all aspects of this.”
The book has been hailed by some as the best guide to self identity and self self-improvement available, and it’s already sold more than 4 million copies.
But Cahn argues that the key to self self self realization is to embrace the power to change your mind, body, and soul.
“It’s about making choices, changing yourself, and accepting your mistakes,” Cathan says.
Cahn’s advice to self realized people is simple: “The more you try to control your own thoughts and emotions, the more you can control the world around you.”
For Cahn, that means focusing on his own inner self, and recognizing that it’s not always a problem to be open and honest about your emotions and thoughts.
In fact, Cathan feels that the self realizations he’s witnessed over the years have helped him develop a “deep-seated sense of self-discovery” that allows him to be an “emotional, independent person who’s able to feel empathy for others and to feel compassion for myself.”
“If you have a deep-seating sense of yourself, then you’re going to be more likely to be successful in the long run,” he explains.
Cathan’s experience is shared by many self-proclaimed “self-realizers” who feel like they’re stuck in a cycle of self control.
“Many of us are taught that if you do something wrong, you’ll be the one who gets hurt,” says Cahn.
“We don’t realize that it can be a trap.”
And while the self reality of some young people can be hard to swallow, Cahan believes that self realizing is a powerful tool for learning to deal with negative feelings.
“When you start to be able to understand yourself, you can see the truth about your life, and you can really understand the world, and that’s really powerful,” he adds.
For Cahan, the self self realization is a way to see yourself in a new light, and the process can be fun and rewarding.
“The trick is not to have any expectations,” he writes.
“[Self-realizing] can make you laugh, it can make your heart sing.
You can do amazing things with your life.”
And if you want to find out how to do it yourself, Chan says there are a number of self realizers out there.
Caminas Self Realization Technique is one of the few online resources that has been tested and proven to be effective in helping teens and adults to self realize.
Cahan recommends using the technique with your own kids, but says that for adults, it’s the best tool you can have.
You could also find yourself a mentor in the form of a coach, friend, or therapist.
“If they’re willing to do this for you, it doesn’t have anything to do with money or fame,” Cahan says.
For more information, check out Cahn on Facebook and Twitter.