What’s the best way to become a self-actualizer?
A friend and I are talking about what to do with our life and I’m telling her to get a job.
I think I said this a million times.
What I’m getting at here is that self-esteem is a state of being that exists solely inside your mind.
You don’t need to be self-conscious about it.
But self-fulfillment is what comes after that.
So I’d like to talk about what I think are the best ways to become self-aware and self-critical and to get on the path to self-awareness.
Let me start with something that’s already a common experience for many people who have a struggle with self-worth and self esteem.
In fact, I’m going to say that it’s one of the common experiences for many of us.
You know, when you feel insecure about your self-image or your worth in the world, there’s an old joke that goes something like this: “I can’t do that.
I’m too thin.
I can’t eat enough.”
It’s kind of funny.
I’ve always found it very useful to ask people to tell me what they are feeling when they feel insecure.
For instance, I know that when I feel insecure I’m feeling a little insecure.
I get really depressed, I feel a little anxious.
I feel really depressed about things.
I have a lot of anxiety.
So, you know, I don’t like feeling that way.
So when I’m having a bad day or when I have an anxious day, I think, “I’m really insecure.”
I think that if I can just find a way to express that, then I can start to feel better.
And I can also find a really helpful way to find a good outlet for that.
But I think it’s something that can be learned.
For example, if I’m worried about my appearance, I try to look at myself in the mirror and I’ll be like, “Oh, my god, look at me!”
And I’ll start to find ways to express how I’m struggling with my self-confidence.
That is the beginning of self-acceptance.
If I can find a healthy way to show my self and be proud of myself, that’s the beginning.
That’s what self-respect is all about.
So the next time you feel self-doubt, don’t be afraid to talk to a friend or someone you trust.
They can help you get there.
And you can also ask a friend to come and sit with you.
That could be really helpful.
You can also do a really good job of self meditating.
I mean, I’ve been meditating a lot.
But for me, it’s always about doing things that are challenging.
And the meditation can be really really helpful, too.
There are lots of ways to do that, including just getting a good book out there.
Or, you can just sit with yourself, meditate, and just read.
I do a lot reading myself.
I read all the time.
And, of course, I do that in therapy.
But one thing that I like about self-meditation is that it gives you a little bit of control over what you read.
You’re just reading things that you think you need to read, not things that, for example, you might feel really insecure about.
That kind of allows you to get some control over how you feel and to say, “Okay, I need to learn to read more.
I need a book to read.
And so, this time I’m really going to read a lot.”
That’s really helpful for getting started.
But it’s also really helpful when you get into a really deep conversation with a friend.
You find yourself struggling with self esteem, so that’s when you do the meditations.
You have a really strong and deep connection to that, so you can really, really take it to the next level.
But then the third thing is, you actually learn to really look at what you’re reading.
That can really help you to be really self-reflective.
You see yourself in the reflection of others.
So it’s kind, really helpful to be able to take some self-reflection into a book.
And then you can read a few pages and say, well, I just really like this thing.
And that’s really valuable because it really shows you how to really take your self to the level that you can actually feel good about yourself.
It really helps you feel good, too, when your friends see that you’re getting yourself out of your shell.
And it helps you to become aware of the things that make you feel bad about yourself, too—your flaws and the things you don’t feel like you’re worthy of.
That really helps.
I also have an idea about a very common feeling for people who are struggling with