Self-absorption is one of the most powerful tools we use to keep us in line and out of trouble.
It’s the opposite of a self-confidence booster.
When self-absorbers try to boost themselves, they can become so absorbed in their own lives that they forget about how they feel and how they should behave.
So how do you combat the self-doubts that are holding you back from the things you really want to do?
Here are some tips for self-inclusion and self-esteem.
‘The truth is, I’m just a normal person’ Self-inclusivity means being yourself.
It means you don’t have to hide your identity.
If you feel you are “different”, then you are.
It may sound weird, but you are normal.
You just don’t like the idea of being defined by how you look.
You know what I mean?
You’re not a freak.
“The truth,” says Professor of Psychology and Brain Sciences, Dr Andrew Smith, “is, I am just a regular person.”
Dr Smith says it’s about not being “the weirdo” when it comes to social media.
You don’t want to be labelled a “social butterfly”.
You may be embarrassed about that.
But Dr Smith argues it’s OK to be self-aware and to realise that social media is an incredibly powerful tool for building a more authentic self.
“It’s like the magic word for self.
“And it’s going to be a long way to being self-actualising.” “
So what we need to do is say ‘I am me’,” he says.
“And it’s going to be a long way to being self-actualising.”
The self-awareness Dr Smith talks about is about “recognising your strengths and weaknesses”.
It’s not just being yourself on the social media platform, but being yourself in real life.
“You’re not trying to be the cool kid,” Dr Smith said.
“That’s a waste of time.”
Dr Adam Leveson from the University of Sydney says he has discovered some amazing ways to become self-confident.
“I’ve had a lot of amazing experiences on the platform, like when I used to get into fights with people, or have people come up to me in the street and say, ‘What’s going on?’
I could feel myself growing and changing,” he says, referring to the fact that his life had a huge impact on the lives of others.
He says the best way to be confident is to know you’re “good enough” for your job.
“When you’re a manager, you’re going to find yourself working on projects that are very challenging,” he said.
But if you have a “good idea” in your head, it’s a good sign that you can do that work, regardless of what people think.
“In my experience, the best things people say about you are the ones that actually get it right,” Dr Levesor said.
He believes the way to self-assess yourself is to get to know yourself better.
Dr Smith agrees.
“We have to be able to identify our strengths and flaws, because those are what we can change if we want to move forward,” he explained.
“But we need also to have a self esteem level where we’re not just doing the best we can, but where we’ve achieved a certain amount of success.
That’s what I would call self-acceptance.
And that’s how we become successful in life.”
“I’m not an authority figure” For some people, self-care can be a chore.
And for others, social media can be too much to manage.
But some people are very busy with work, or don’t really have time to socialise.
Dr Leveon says the key is to recognise your strengths as well as your weaknesses and then take care of those areas.
“To a degree, we can’t do this by ourselves, but it’s really easy to recognise the strengths,” he explains.
“For example, you have to remember that you have the same strengths as a person who’s in a wheelchair or someone who has Parkinson’s disease or somebody who is in a chronic condition like diabetes.”
You can also recognise the areas where you need to work on improving yourself.
“If you’re having a really hard time dealing with your social anxiety, you can look at things like self-discipline, self discipline, self care,” he adds.
Dr Anthony Marques from the Queensland University of Technology says there’s a lot to learn from people who have managed to “escape” social media, including his own father.
“He’s managed to become much more social and engage in a range of activities, from his local swimming pool to socialising with friends,” he told ABC Radio Brisbane. “All of